89 Sample Condolence Message to a Friend (Heartfelt & Inspiring)

When someone we care about passes away, it can be difficult to find the right words to comfort a friend.

In this blog post, we’ll give you an idea of what to say to your friend when they lose someone close to them. You can use these messages as a template to tailor your own message.


#1 My heart aches for you, [insert name]. Falling asleep without the sound of [his/her] voice and waking up to a new day without him/her is more painful than words can express. But we will get through this together, one day at a time. I want you to know that I am here for you when life gets too much to bear or when your heart longs for his/her presence.

#2 There’s not a minute that goes by in which thoughts of [him/her] don’t cross my mind. [His/Her] smile and positive attitude was contagious, and I feel blessed knowing [he/she] made such an impact me during our time together. Our memories of [him/her] will forever hold a place in my heart. I’m here for you, whenever you need me.

#3 It’s so hard to let go and say goodbye, especially when it feels like the other shoe has yet to drop. But know that everything happens for a reason, even if we can’t see it now. We may not understand it until later on down the road because life is filled with many twists and turns. You are not alone; you have me by your side during this time of grief and happiness moving forward.

#4 Nothing can fill the void caused by his/her absence, but just know that there are people who love you around the world praying for your peace and comfort. I may not know you as well as [he/she] did, but I hope that these words of encouragement and love reach your heart and heal your soul just a little.

#5 A day without seeing his/her name or face in my newsfeed is so empty now. Every time I see something about him/her, it’s like getting punched in the gut. But we will get through this together! We can talk about our memories and help each other to remember all the good times we had because those memories are what will remain when every other happy thought has disappeared into thin air.

#6 There is no pain that can last forever. The hurt will get better with time, and your memories of [insert name] will live on forever in your heart. I am here for you when ever you need me, even if it’s just to listen.

#7 If there’s anything I can do to help make things a little easier for you right now, please don’t hesitate to ask.

#8 Our hearts beat as one the day we met each other all those years ago…and I still feel this way today. We could never be separated by death…we are truly soul mates. You have given my life so much meaning and happiness that words cannot describe how grateful I am to have been blessed to live our lives with you.

#9 No one deserves to lose a loved one, and we can’t replace them even if we try, but I hope that the love you share with them will never be taken away. The memories you have, especially now, are the hardest to deal with, but I’m sure if they’re anything like you, they wouldn’t want all that love to go to waste.

#10 Our lives are so full of love, laughter, smiles, and good memories. While it may be hard to think about now, I know that slowly these moments will come back to you. Although it is painful to say goodbye once again, take comfort knowing that your loved one’s memory is forever kept alive in your heart.

#11 Losing someone special is not easy. I am here for you during this difficult time with a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen. Know that no matter how much time passes by or how many tears are shed; our hearts are always with those whom we love the most.

#12 If words could heal the pain within your heart right now, I would make all of your sorrow go away with one smile. If love could put the pieces back together, I would give you all of my heart to make you whole again. If hugs were enough, I’d send a thousand and never stop until you felt better. Although we cannot do any of these things, we can bring comfort in knowing that we are here for you at this time and will be waiting patiently for the day when the sun shines again.

#13 Grief is like a storm in which you find yourself without shelter and feeling unbearably cold; but when it passes, if it hasn’t brought tears along with it; then there’s nothing left but your memories and love that was shared with [insert name]. That warmth will protect you and comfort you in the days to come.

#14 I will always remember [him/her], and I know we all will. No matter what has happened, we can never forget or erase the memory of a life that was so dearly loved and is still remembered in our minds and hearts today. Know that there is no time limit on grief or on missing someone. You are never alone, and you are always loved.If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it! You will see your sorrow turn into strength as time heals your hurting heart; make each day count. Remember the good times fondly; most importantly, cherish forever within your heart all the love shared between you and [insert name]. As long as you honor and remember them, they will never be far from your side.

#15 Death is a difficult transition; it brings an end to one journey and signals the start of another. Although this chapter has closed, I hope you know that you are not alone in this time of pain. You can get through anything with faith and courage. You have hitched your wagon to a star; there is no road too long or bumpy for you to overcome! May God provide all the strength and courage needed in these coming days ahead.

#16 When someone dies, nothing matters anymore except yesterday’s memories, their words of appreciation, last conversations, smiles exchanged between friends and so on. Our dear friend [insert name], I remember how much you made a difference in my life. Your kindness and generosity . . . your love, wisdom, and words of encouragement will stay with me forever. You were a blessing to all who knew you; I will never forget the way your laughter filled the air or the sparkle in your eyes when talking about something that mattered to you.

#17 The hardest thing about losing someone is having no more memories left to share—yet out of tragedy comes triumph. True friends like us can celebrate even as we grieve for our loss, because it is always true that yesterday’s memories are better than tomorrow’s dreams! Although it may seem unfair now, time heals wounds; memories make us smile; songs make us cry; every day is a chance to learn, grow, and appreciate the people around us. God bless you in this trying time.

#18 I would like to thank you for making the time in your busy schedule to be with me in my time of loss. It means a lot and is very considered, knowing how much [he/she] meant to you in your life. My friend’s memories in this time will help me remember [him/her] that much more when she [he/she] is gone.

#19 We’ve shared joys and laughter, but we also share sorrow and grief during such sad times as these. Although there are no words I can say that will take away the pain of losing someone so dear, please know that I am here for you and my heart aches with yours today. You always stood strong together; you should be no different now.

#20 Saying goodbye is never easy for those that have been blessed with the memory of a special person in their life. I know it hurts and may even feel impossible to go on without them, but remember one thing: they lived a full life and fulfilled all their dreams before departing from this world. So treasure all your memories together because those are what will carry you forward.

#21 What is life without friends? You must know — even if it doesn’t seem like it right now — that your friend and you were meant to be. Our paths crossed for a reason, and I am glad we had the chance to know each other. Just as the sun shines brighter after a storm, your happy moments will return too.

#22 As I share this time with you, know that my thoughts are with you and my heart aches with yours. Thank heavens for memories of those who enriched our lives by their presence while they were here on earth. And thank God also that your friendship made their passage into Heaven easy for them — they lived well at least until they died!

#23 How can I possibly express how sorry I am for your loss? I grieve with you, but also celebrate the special life that [insert name] lived. As time marches on, remember to cherish each day that God has given you to spend with loved ones who are still here by your side.

#24 Remembering all the good times you had with someone so dear is a great comfort when sad thoughts arrive unbidden. There is no pain in love; only leaves after the sweet fruit has been enjoyed and savored. Good friends will stand by you through thick and thin because they know it won’t always come easy. And someday soon, since distance cannot separate true hearts forever, our paths will cross again.

#25 You are not alone. There is nothing I wouldn’t do to help you through this time of hardship and loss. I will say goodbye to [insert name], but I shall never forget him/her, for he/she was such a great person, just like you.

#26 Knowing that we cannot bring back your loved one is very painful. Your friend’s memory rests in our heart and we will always cherish the times we spent with him/her. As friends who love and care about you, we want you to know that we still share happy memories of [him/her] with you. We hope these memories will comfort you when life seems so unbearable without [him/her].

#27 The pain of grief can be so much to bear, but I know you are strong enough to weather the storm. Allow me to share your burden and help you carry on during this difficult time. You are not alone; we will walk together feeling that our light shines brighter because of all the love shared with your loved one. Thank you for allowing me to support you during this time.

#28 Although words feel empty at times like these, I wanted say that my life is better thanks to knowing you and [insert name]. May these memories sustain you until we meet again someday.

#29 When someone dear has left us, the best thing we can do is honor their memory by living each day as they would have wanted us to live. We should love with the same love, live with the same zest, and celebrate life in their honor for this is what they would have wanted most.

#30 Quite often our lives are defined by how we respond to tragedy and loss. In sadness let it be said that you did not break down or give up, but instead showed courage and strength. Holding your head high through this time must have been so hard but I see the beauty in your strength because you have made a difference for others who have experienced something similar. This cannot take away the sting of pain, but may reduce it just a little bit. You can lean on me during this difficult time.

#31 I am blessed to know you and be loved by someone like [insert name]. You are always in my thoughts; knowing that you were special is enough.

#32 Even when it seems like there are no words left to say, let me still tell you how much I respect your friendship. Yes, the world may turn without us but our feelings for each other will remain beyond time and space. Whenever life gives you lemons or sorrows, remember that somehow we’ll get through this all together because I love you!

#33 If love could have saved [him/her], he/she would have lived forever. Look into the sky at night to where a million stars twinkle in memory of your lost love. Know that wherever I am, I will always cherish the time we spent together and remember all the good times you shared with [him/her].

#34 When a beautiful friend like you is gone, there’s a hole in my heart that nothing can replace. I hope your loved ones little by little find peace in their hearts knowing that you went out doing what made you happy. Although it seems impossible today, please know that tomorrow brings some beauty into this world because you were here yesterday. For sure!

#35 I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope to give you peace and strength during these trying times, and also take care of anything that might make things more difficult for you while [he/she] is gone. Know that we pray for your friend, family member, or co-worker who has passed away, and we want to help in any way we can. We shall keep them in our hearts forevermore.

#36 When someone really special goes away, there is no other thing in life that seems so sad as watching those they leave behind to weep alone when they should not have to grieve alone. I am so sorry for your loss. The last words you shared with [him/her] were the kindest, and your gentleness will leave a lasting legacy of kindness in this world. May all of heaven’s angels watch over you during these days ahead.

#37 A friend like you is such a rarity to find, and that is why it hurts even more when they are gone from our lives. Thank you for supporting me through hard times and brightening my world with your laugh and friendship! If only we could rewind time; maybe then we would not have to say goodbye to all those whom we cherish and love deeply. Know that I am here for you always, no matter the distance or time apart.

#38 I may not have known your loved one as well as you, but my heart aches with yours. You are in my thoughts and prayers. May you find comfort knowing that God is close beside you during this time.

#39 Saying goodbye to someone so special can be difficult at times, especially when there are so many things to say, memories to share, and moments to remember. Connecting with how much life has changed after spending so much time together will help ease the pain of missing them. And if it helps, know that they will always remain in your heart. That memory will never fade away; instead it will forever remain fresh like springtime dew on moist leaves!

#40 My deepest condolences on your loss. No words can express how much I feel for you at this time, but please know that I am here if you need comforting or a hug or anything else. You are in my thoughts and prayers always as you go through the process of saying goodbye to such a close friend.

#41 Life is full of goodbyes, particularly when it involves someone special like [insert name]. While there is nothing one can do to bring them back, we hope their memory lives on in our hearts through all the lovely memories we have with them. The best way to deal with grief is being together and being encouraged by each other’s presence. Know that I’m here for you now and anytime you need me, my arms are open.

#42 The memories of [insert name] will live on in our hearts. Honestly, I just don’t know what to say because the pain is so great. If you need anything, please let me know because I am here for you.

#43 You have been a pillar of strength for many years and now your strength needs to be with someone who is going through a hard time. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

#44 Saying goodbye to somebody as special as [insert name] leaves a hole in my heart that cannot be filled by anyone other than them again. I can only hope that the love we shared while they were still alive will bring some comfort. I pray that God will give you the strength to endure until time heals your wounds.

#45 All of us are heartbroken because [insert name] is not here anymore—the support they gave, their laughs, the memories they shared are all things that our hearts deeply treasure. But where there’s sorrow, sadness comes along with it and this makes me sad knowing how much pain you are in right now. I am really sorry for your loss and please accept my condolences.

#46 It can be difficult to find just the right words to say in times like these but know that I am thinking of you and praying for strength during this trying time. May God give you comfort during these dark days ahead. Know that my thoughts are with you always so if you need anything, please let me know.

#47 There are times where you don’t know what to say. Your loss is a pain I understand and no words can express how much it hurts. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through this difficult time, and I will be here when you need someone to talk to.

#48 There is no guidebook on how to properly deal with death. In my silence, please know that I am always thinking of you as well as your loved one who has gone before us. Our hearts ache for our beloved friend but we remember their great legacy which helps us soldier on in the face of grief.

#49 I have struggled so hard these last few days to put into words just how much my heart is with you right now. I think the only way to express that is for me to show you how much I care and pray that God will give you peace and comfort in this time of great sorrow.

#50 The pain of loss feels so heavy on our hearts as we struggle to find the words. We have been blessed by having had [insert name] in our lives, and it is this blessing along with love from those around us which helps us carry on. Know that our thoughts are always with you as well as your loved one who has gone before us.

#51 Facing a day without someone who brought so much joy into everyone’s life can be difficult, especially when it comes unexpectedly. Know that I am here to help you remember all the great things about your loved one. I hope my love is a comfort to you today, and that together we can celebrate the legacy of [insert name] which will endure for all time.

#52 I feel terrible that your worst fears have been realized. There’s nothing to be said other than words of comfort and prayers for a quick recovery. I am here for you, and I will always do whatever I can to help. Know that you did not fight alone. You were so brave to go through this knowing how many people care about you.

#53 The sorrowful ache in my heart is matched only by the void emptiness in yours right now. If there is anything that would bring me some relief from just thinking about your pain, it would be an action that tells you I love and support you unconditionally—that is to say, even during your time of grief when you need a shoulder more urgently than ever. I will do my best to be there for you in all the ways that you need me to be.

#54 Do not grieve your loss, for it is a part of the human experience and a truth we must accept sooner or later in life—that one day, we will have to say goodbye forever. For now, allow yourself the time and space to reflect on all your wonderful times with [insert name]. Remember him/her fondly instead of feeling like this was your last chance. It might seem like it right now but you will heal, feel ready to continue living again, and move forward ever stronger than before.

#55 It’s not fair that someone as good as you has to go through this pain, but it does help me know that you’re surrounded by friends who care about you very much. They are always closer than we think they are. So please stay strong until the next chapter of life starts for you again.

#56 I am not a master of words, but I hope what few words of condolence that I have will bring you a cold comfort in a cold season of grief. Death is the door to everlasting life, and although we do not know why your loved one had to leave so soon, they look down from Heaven at you with tears of joy.

#57 Your loss is my loss too, for [insert name] was more than just a friend. We shared many memories together and our hearts are heavy for your sadness. Like you, time seems to be standing still for me right now while thoughts of [him/her] come rushing back into my mind. However, even though we may never see them again on Earth, I am comforted by the idea that they are an angel up in Heaven, watching over us.

#58 Your friend has left us and we can only hope that he/she has found peace and happiness in the arms of those who love him/her as much as you did. May time keep your memories as precious treasures to take out often, as we were meant to cherish our loved ones.

#59 All I want is to remind you that though people come into our lives and go, they will always leave a mark on us and we will never truly be happy again until we see them once more.

#60 Our beloved friends and family members are born for a reason – to make our lives more meaningful, richer, stronger, better! Cherish all your wonderful times with [him/her], remember how special your friendship was, and know that he/she will forever be with you because loving memories never die.

#61 The best way to remember someone is to cherish the memories they gave us. I hope this message brings you some solace during this difficult time. You are in my thoughts and prayers, dear friend.

#62 Wishing you peace of heart for all the wonderful times you shared together; hoping there are no regrets or tears just sweet memories brought back to life in our heart’s safekeeping. We may never meet again in this lifetime, but I’m sending you my love through these words – hoping it helps ease your pain just a little bit when the sorrow gets deep inside your heart. Be at peace knowing that I will always be here for you.

#63 In the past, I have experienced moments of pain and confusion. When it seemed as though no one was by my side, I found strength from within to carry on. It is because of those times I know you can make it through this difficult time. I am here for you and will not be going anywhere soon.

#64 I cannot fathom what a day must feel like without a loved one in your life. You are strong and resilient enough to move forward with grace and courage. Your positive attitude shining through even in these hard times makes me think that maybe someday we can laugh about your loss as much as we mourn it now. Until then, please know that I care deeply about your well-being.

#65 It’s always hard to say goodbye when you’re expecting to see someone again. We all have memories, but what matters most are the moments we shared with our loved ones. Treasure those fond memories and keep them close to your heart. Time may move slowly right now, but it will pass quickly enough if you allow yourself happiness in remembering how wonderful he/she was.

#66 A healing thought as you look back on [insert name]: “There, but for the grace of God goes I.” Hold onto those thoughts as a reminder of how blessed you were by knowing such an extraordinary person how fortunate you were to share the time you had with him/her.

#67 Your pain is my pain; your sorrow, my own. Please know that I am here for you during this difficult time and that I will be here to help in any way I can. When memories bring comfort to your heart, they are like guideposts on the road of life.

#68 It’s never easy to say goodbye. You will always carry [him/her] with you in your spirit and in your soul; their memory alive within the warmth of every breath you take, the beat of your heart, and the light of each day ahead. Know that there are those who love you unconditionally and now one less person who knows just how special you are.

#69 Because your heart is heavy, it’s hard to feel like celebrating anything right now. I would like to offer my help in your time of grief, in any way that I can. Know that you are not alone. You have family and friends who love you dearly, and who would do anything for you.

#70 You are in my thoughts and in my heart during this difficult time. I wish you peace, love, and understanding so that you can be strong through your grief. We will get through this together! I am here to help ease your pain with hugs, smiles, laughter, and tears.

#71 Your sorrow is mine too. The promise of spiritual companionship shared between us makes this loss easier for both of us to bear. Although it cannot be changed or undone–our hearts understand that there is a divine purpose behind the challenges we’re facing today.

#72 It seems like just yesterday [insert name] was laughing over silly things with us. Now you have to follow the same steps by letting go of a loved one and saying goodbye. I wish to be a beacon of light, so you don’t have to walk on this journey alone. My arms are open wide for you to come running in when the load becomes too heavy for you to carry alone.

#73 The memory of [insert name] will live fresh in our minds forever—a lifetime that was too short but full of happiness! Thinking about her/him makes us smile even in these trying times. You are not alone. Everyone experiences loss, but also knows how it feels like when someone special is taken away from them suddenly without warning—which makes each day harder than the next.

#74 I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. If there is anything I can do to help ease your pain, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. Sending hugs and love!

#75 Even though it’s painful now, memories of the time spent with [insert name] will bring joy to your heart once again. You are blessed to have had this time with them; cherish these memories as they heal your broken heart. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

#76 Yes, it may be hard for you right now, but one day at a time becomes easier – until someday is all of the sudden easier than “someday soon.” A day comes when you can smile and remember the good times rather than feel a gaping emptiness. I am praying for your healing, my friend.

#77 The pain of losing a loved one is indescribable, but I hope that as time passes, those hurtful memories will give way to those treasured moments you had with [insert name]. You are not alone during this hard time – please know that you have support from many caring people surrounding you!

#78 May your heart find some comfort in knowing how much your loved one is missed and thought about by so many who knew them and love them. Your loss is felt by all of us today and always. If there’s anything we can do to help ease your sadness, please let us know.

#79 It sometimes feels like you cannot bear another moment of the pain, but life does go on, and your loved one would want you to go on with it. As much as this is a painful time, I pray that the memories of the good times you shared with [insert name] will soon outweigh the hurt.

#80 Even though you are hurting deeply right now, the act of saying goodbye is not permanent. Memories live on forever. I am holding you close in my heart during this difficult time.

#81 There are no words strong enough to ease your pain, but I hope it’s okay if my thoughts and prayers surround you during this time. Please know that memories can inspire us to be better people. Though you miss them dearly, they will never leave your side because they have made an imprint on your life that can never be erased.

#82 Some days are really tough, even with all the friends surrounding me with hugs and good advice to help get me through this time…I still feel so alone without [him/her]. But no matter what, I know they are still here with me in spirit.

#83 Sometimes all you need is another person to stand beside you in your time of grief. That’s why I’m joining my hands to yours and saying that I am always available when needed most. Your sadness is mine too.

#84 My heart breaks with you because losing someone is hard…But just remember, even though [he/she]’s not physically there anymore, he’ll always be there for you in your memories. Treasure the good times you have shared together so that this loss will never overshadow them.

#85 Although I cannot begin to understand the depth of your sadness, please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Remembering all that was positive about your friend brings comfort during this time. Please lean on me for support, as I am always here for you.

#86 The stars shine brightest in memories; why not look up at them now? Losing someone so important makes today feel like the longest day of your life. You are surrounded by friends bearing candles whose light guides you through dark times ahead. We miss [him/her] too, but we will stand with you until the end of time itself.

#87 May flowers grow upon his or her grave may he or she rest in peace because you and I both know that we will never forget. As you grieve, may the good memories of your loved one give you comfort and peace so that you can think peacefully about him or her.

#88 May you feel as much joy as there is pain. Just as an angel was watching over [him/her], an angel will now watch over us all; may that angel be with us at all times. If this person were here right now, he or she would tell us to focus on our blessings because always remember: life doesn’t stop for death, death stops for life.

#89 The hardest thing about losing someone is having no more memories left to share—yet out of tragedy comes triumph. True friends like us can celebrate even as we grieve for our loss, because it is always true that yesterday’s memories are better than tomorrow’s dreams! Although it may seem unfair now, time heals wounds; memories make us smile; songs make us cry; every day is a chance to learn, grow, and appreciate the people around us. God bless you in this trying time.

Warp Up

Even though it is difficult, it is important to find the right words to say in order to comfort a friend during this time. We hope that our list of sample condolence messages will help you do just that. If you need more ideas or want someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We are here for you. Grief can be so isolating and we want to do whatever we can to support you through this tough time.

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